This article was originally posted on WomenLearnThai.com.
Ah, to have the insecurities of a kid again…
When I was fourteen, I moved from the glorious New Zealand to the enormous U.S.
The U.S. was too strange, too big, too shiny new. Worse, I did not assimilate.
My experiences were not the same as my classmates, leaving me the outsider. Dense and awkward became the name of the game. And this, after previously being an avid participant in school activities, keeping fairly decent grades.
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Enter a dog-eared copy of Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz.
It literally changed my life.
Following Maxwell’s advice, I restructured my mindset away from feeling like a not so clever outcast, to being up to the challenges of a new life.
While it did not happen overnight, I did go from feeling that I couldn’t do anything, to believing that perhaps I could, then on to actually doing whatever fit my new mold.
After leaving school, the advice garnered from Psycho Cybernetics gave me the hootspa to work as: a mudlogger, draftsman, geotech, professional photographer, designer, and creative director. All sans official training.
But I never applied what I learned from Psycho-Cybernetics to foreign languages. And I don’t know why. A pity. Because when I started on the long road of learning Thai, it dredged up the negative baggage from before:
- I’m not good at remembering vocabulary.
- Perhaps I suffer from short-term memory loss?
- My long term-memory isn’t too grand either.
- I’m too shy to speak Thai in public.
- I mean, what if I can’t find the right words?
- And I’m having a difficult time staying motivated.
- So much so, that I’d like to ditch my Thai class. Again.
- In addition, the Thais speak too fast for me to keep up.
- Awk! The tones! The tones! Awk! Awk!
- And (a biggie), I’m not young anymore.
- Darn. So maybe learning Thai is just TOO HARD!
- Sigh. I must be a language learning dummy… 🙁
Does this sound familiar to any of you?
Because it sure did to me. Only this time, I knew what to do.
And being older (cough) (cough), this time, I included audio in my search.
Matt Furey and the Psycho-Cybernetics Foundation…
The Internet is awash with Psycho-Cybernetics tips, but several resources stood out: Matt Furey’s Psycho-Cybernetics Foundation, and the Psycho-Cybernetics Audio Book by Maxwell Maltz. There is even a New Psycho-Cybernetics on the market.
One important lesson I learned from Psycho-Cybernetics is that I’m not shy. Ok, I am shy. Painfully shy even. But Psycho-Cybernetics taught me to stop my shyness from getting in the way of getting what I wanted/needed (same, same).
And as I wanted/needed to ask Matt Furey for advice, shy or not, I did.
Matt Furey: The most important psychological discovery of this century is the discovery of the “self image.” Whether we realize it or not, each of us carries about with us a mental blueprint or picture of ourselves. It may be vague and ill-defined to our conscious gaze. In fact, it may not be consciously recognizable at all. But it is there, complete down to the last detail.
This self image becomes a golden key to living a better life because of two important discoveries:
- All your actions, feelings, behaviors, even your abilities – are always consistent with this self image. The picture you have of yourself in your own mind determines your lot in life.
- The self image can be changed. Numerous case histories have shown that one is never too young nor too old to change his self-image and thereby start to live a new life.
If we feed information and data into our Creative Mechanism to the effect that we ourselves are unworthy, inferior, undeserving, incapable (negative self-image) this data is processed and acted upon as any other data in giving us the “answer” in the form of objective experience.
Visualizing, creative mental picturing, is no more difficult than what you do when you remember some scene out of the past, or worry about the future.
Acting out new action patterns is no more difficult than “deciding,” then following through on tying your shoes in a new and different manner each morning, instead of continuing to tie them in your old “habitual way,” without thought or decision.
The Psycho-Cybernetics Foundation
Using Psycho-Cybernetics to get over the Thai learning blues…
So basically, Psycho-Cybernetics is a simple concept. You just write over negative thoughts with positive memories, replacing a negative self image with a positive one. Easy.
And while it might sound odd, your unconscious really can’t tell the difference between generated experiences and the actual ones.
So this is what you do…
First: Decide what you want to accomplish…
- I want to feel confident enough to speak Thai.
- I want to be able to concentrate on my studies for longer.
- I want to retain x amount of new vocabulary each week.
- I want to feel excitement for learning Thai.
Second: Tell yourself that it will happen, that you can do this…
- I am a positive Thai speaker.
- I can concentrate on my studies.
- I do have the ability to learn x number of new words each week.
- I love the feel-good factor of learning Thai
Third: Create detailed movies to play in your head…
- You working hard at your Thai studies.
- You being chuffed at how many new Thai words you acquired this week.
- You grinning from ear to ear in anticipation of your next Thai class.
- You speaking fluent Thai, surrounded by adoring Thai guys or gals or the other.
I can already hear the doubters out there. But come on, what have you got to lose? And if you are not too sure if it’ll work for you, then give it one just month. Pick a short month if you have to. Ok? And I will too.
Psycho-Cybernetics Audio Book
YouTube: Interview with Dr. Maxwell Maltz (Psycho-Cybernetics) 1/4
YouTube: Interview with Dr. Maxwell Maltz (Psycho-Cybernetics) 2/4
YouTube: Interview with Dr. Maxwell Maltz (Psycho-Cybernetics) 3/4
YouTube: Interview with Dr. Maxwell Maltz (Psycho-Cybernetics) 4/4
YouTube: Maxwell Maltz Clip